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My dd has become a champion staller. She will start her work and then have to go to the bathroom, or see the cat and have to talk to it or if I am not watching go pet it. She will sharpen her pencils. When she is working on math, she will work it out and then erase everything. (I got her a dry erase board, cause she was erasing so much she was ripping the paper). She will just keep finding other things to do, it makes me crazy. Any advice?
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Uh oh, looks like you have a Mini ME on your hands!! To this day, I am a MASTER procrastinator, and I'm pretty sure that I refined the art when I was quite young.
As an adult I figured out that I did it for a couple of reasons. 1) To STALL. Not rocket science right? Just didn't want to do it! 2) The more I procrastinated, the less time I would have to accomplish something, the more challenging it would become. I NEEDED to make schoolwork a challenge because it wasn't on it's own! Advice? Not sure I have any great advice.....do you have any incentives for her to not stall? Maybe something that she could build up to at the end of the week.....Keep a chart etc. How old is she? (As obviously a chart w/incentives might not work for a much older child, etc.) |
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She is nine. For right now what is working is if she is not done she doesn't get to do things. Yesterday I told her if she was done by a certain time I would buy her subway for lunch. I can't afford to do that all the time, but she had just spent several days with her aunt and before that the boys were home on spring break, so I wanted to get her back in the groove. Today she missed sign language class (and seeing her friends new puppy) cause she didn't finish. She is still stallling and if she is not done, she will miss dance class, her favorite thing in the world.
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Yep - dance class might have done it for me!
I think right now taking away priveleges is good. If a whole week goes by where she starts to be consistent, maybe toss in some positive reinforcement thing - doesn't have to be big or monetary, just something special to reinforce the good behavior. Good luck! |
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I don't know, Have you talked to her about it. 9 year olds are alot smarter than they look. One way to gauge whether or not taking things away is working is if you keep doing it and she just stops caring about the things you take away. If it turns out that its a challenge she's looking for which is likely, then you could find a way to make it more challenging. for instance if her assignment is to do 10 addition problems you could tell her to then divide all her answers by 2 and then add 3 on a seperate sheet of paper or i dunno use word problems to make the questions and answers relevant to her. If kelly goes to dance class and sees 8 dancers on the floor fully dressed how many pairs of toe shoes or split sole jazz dance shoes does she see?
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